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▸ Do you ever feels like breaking down? As I shed a tear.......Sinking in my pain ... ♬
Friday, April 22, 2011
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Just like mourning death, there are stages of grief to a break-up. Denial, anger, frustration, sadness and joy are all some of the emotions that you may experience after a relationship has ended. What ever your feelings are it's perfectly normal to experience all of them, but at some point you'll have to move on and get over your ex.One of the first steps you must take at the end of a relationship is to acknowledge and accept it is over. Clinging to any hope or prospect for a future is often unrealistic, and despite what those popular romance movies want you to believe, it's uncommon.The first thing you should promise yourself is that you are not in any contact with your ex during the next couple of weeks. If you see him/her every day, how can you forget him/her. You can't, and that is why it is important to take that break.Don't allow yourself to fall into the belief that ending things slowly and staying friends will help ease the sting. It takes two people to make a relationship and if one person is deeply in love and the other is detached this will only ignite resentment and pain.
It take time to get over from break up, and this time can be rather exhausting. This may prevent you enjoying other things, such as hobbies, work, family, and friends, in your life. Even though it is not easy, you need to draw attention to these aspects as soon as possible. They will direct your mind and thoughts away from your ex.One mistake people often make is they don't realize that it is actually the rituals and routine being in a relationship they are missing, not that other person. This is one thing you need to figure out. Are you feeling sad because you miss your ex, or because you are not in that secure and familiar relationship anymore. After you have figured that out, you can make your next move according to this.
If you understand that it wasn't the person you miss, you have much better chances to quickly recover from the break up. All you need to do is keeping yourself busy. Go back into your normal fulfilling lifestyle and forget that relationship.
There are not any general rules about how to get over from a break-up. Every relationship is unique and we all are individuals with different characteristics. Just take each day as it comes, and remember that someday your relationship is only a distant memory.
How does writing a poem ease the pain of break up? By making you vent your feelings, it makes you feel better, with your mind emptied of thrusting feelings. Writing things down will also enable you to gain a better perspective, thus showing you a way out of the impasse. You may even get a clear picture of what lays ahead of you. Is the break up such that you have to accept it as final and chart a new course or there is scope for fixing things and get back with your ex?
Man, I just wish I could turn back time and set things up. I don't want this. Screw you! I miss my smile, not the fake one!
• In my teens, I’ll get into a good college or get a good job.
• In my early twenties, my career will start to take off.
• By my mid-twenties, I will meet the person of my dreams.
• In my thirties, I will be married and have 2.2 beautiful children.
• In my forties, I’ll be running the company for which I’ve been working.
• In my fifties, I’ll reflect back on my life and my grown children and smile.
• In my sixties, I’ll retire and travel the world.
much love,
tasha
